Resolutions? So Cliched

This year I am trying out something a little different than previous NY resolutions…since I suck at them anyway.  These are a little late in coming, as it’s January 6th, but…meh.

Give my kids more hugs. I feel like a guilty mother for even posting that.  But it’s true, I feel I need to hug them more.

Since hubby is deploying, I have a few things I’d like to accomplish while he is gone as well that aren’t as important as hugging…

  • Sort, Organize, Edit all 10K plus of my photos.  This is a huge undertaking for me, and since all my photos are organized by month, I plan to start at the very beginning in 2007.  I’ve done some, but not many.  Just a fraction of the 10K actually.  Once this task is done, hubby can add them into the Drobo servers so we can view them on the big 55″ tv.
  • Finally complete the Disney World/Universal Studios scrapbook from 2010 and start/finish Disneyland 2012
  • Make photo books from 2007-2013 (This isn’t as impt as organizing the photos, but it’s on my list to complete.  If I don’t finish it…no big deal).
  • Learn how to use my sewing machine.  Mom bought it for me the day before Barry passed away, and I’ve never been able to use it.  I have a mental block on it, and since it will be 5 years in October, I’d like to get past this.  Maybe make a couple pillow cases for the kids, or a sundress for my youngest.

I’ve also made a vow with myself not to buy any new makeup this year that I don’t need.  I have a TON of cosmetics, and I’d like to get through some of it.  That doesn’t include something I run out of that I use constantly, like foundation or bb/cc cream or powder.


2013 In Review

Since the new year has just started, I have seen countless “2013 In Review” type of posts all over Facebook and the internet.  One of my instagram friends posted a link to her blog tonight, and I got inspired by a few of her posts to write my own 2013 in Review.  Like her, we had a big exciting year with many changes to our family.


* I made the tough decision to cancel our wedding.  With my husband in Kansas, and no help back in WA, plus preparing the kids and I, and our house for a big move, the wedding was too much stress for me.  I still regret cancelling it, but hopefully one day we will be able to get a vow renewal in.

* Thanks to a friend of mine, I was able to go visit my husband for a long weekend, sans kids!  That was pretty damn awesome.  We stayed in his apartment here and got to visit some cool places, and just spend time as a couple reconnecting after spending 6 weeks apart.  One of my favorite places to visit was the Oz Museum.


* The twins turned 12! This was a huge milestone, but not so much as the one we are about to embark on, having teenagers.  Ack!

* Andrew came home for a short weekend and we took the kids to Great Wolf Lodge as a surprise.  They had no idea he was coming home, so  I told them I had an appointment in Seattle that day and would be back late when they got home from school.  We had him walk in the back door, and the looks on their faces was pure joy and disbelief


* I can’t remember too much about March haha.  Our youngest daughter turned 7 though!


* Wait, I remember March now…the kids and I flew to Kansas to spend time with Andrew over Easter break, so we left late March and came back early April.  I was telling the kids the whole time we were flying to Ottawa to see my brother, and then they heard me slip up on the phone talking to someone and the secret was out.  Dammit!  We had a great time, got to show them around Ft Riley and see the house we’d be moving into.  We also did an easter egg hunt while we were here.

* Later in April I put my house up for rent.  That was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do, and I won’t lie, it caused a lot of strife for Andrew and I. I was resigned to moving to Kansas, but I was not happy about leaving the home I had made for the kids and I after my first husband died.  We had started meeting some great people, and I felt so at home there.  But it was the best for us to move to KS.

* Went to the Seattle Zoo with our membership. Still miss that place


* We got a renter! It was barely on the market and she came around really quickly

* Andrew came home for Memorial Day weekend.  Mostly to help me out with the house and to get some last-minute things done.

* Started saying our goodbyes to WA state.  We had some good friends over for dinner while he was home, knowing it was highly unlikely we would get to see them again before we moved.  Miss you Jason and Lindsay!


* The twins graduated from Grade 6! This meant they’d be moving onto middle school once we got to Kansas

* Took the kids to Seattle a couple of times, and we saw all of our favorite places…the zoo, Archie McPhee, Fremont Troll, Dick’s Drive In, Gasworks Park, and we had frozen yogurt at The Fainting Goat (AMAZING!)

* Got to spend some time with a friend I’ve had for years.  We don’t see each other very often, but when we do, it’s always the same.  We love going to her house because she lives near a river and we love going swimming in it.  Miss you Janelle!!

* More and More organizing on the house and getting rid of whatever we could


* One of the biggest months for us

* Andrew came back July 5th, and we immediately made the drive up to my hometown to spend a few days with my extended family.  Got to go swimming in my childhood lake! Said goodbye to our extended family.

* July 10th we left for our honeymoon to NYC! We only got a few days there, but it was jammed pack.  Can’t wait to go back!  Eventually I will get around to doing recaps on our trip.  I’ve been terrible about that since then.  Some of the highlights: The Met, Laduree, Wicked, The Subway, AMNH, a swanky hotel, Central park, Candied Bacon ice cream from a food truck!!!!!, Two very expensive dinners at The Palm and Peter Luger Steakhouse, TIFFANY!!!!

* Came back from NYC, then a day later brought my sister back home (she watched the kids for us on our honeymoon), and brought one of our cats with her 😦 We can only have three pets on post here in KS.  Said goodbye to my mom, sister, Hades my cat, brother and hopefully-soon-to-be sister-in-law.

* Had 12 days to finish the house and move.  Movers came the 25th and we left the 27th

* Drove from WA to ID to MT to WY to SD to NE to KS.  Saw Yellowstone and Mt Rushmore!


* We arrived!

* Kids started school Aug 14th

* I made a new friend just because our youngest daughter saw a boy in her class walking to school.  The mom and I have been friends since. 🙂  I think meeting friends by chance here has given me better quality friends than the ones I met online before coming here. Not saying all are bad, but the majority have not been good quality friends.

* Hated the awful KS heat. Man that sucks balls.  It’s too damn hot here during the summer.


* I started volunteering at the USO! I love doing this

* I took over the FRG! I also LOVE this! It’s what I was meant to do.

* We started getting into more of a routine here and adjusting to life in KS


* Middle daughter turned 11!

* Fourth anniversary since my first husband’s passing, so it wasn’t an easy month for us.

* We took the kids to see Wicked in Kansas City  We loved it so much we wanted to see it again 🙂

* Andrew and I had both our two-year dating anniversary AND our one year wedding anniversary, but I can’t remember what we did for our date.  I did get a gorgeous diamond ring though!


* I convinced my mother in law to come visit my husband for the first time in 16 years.  He had always gone to visit her before.  She came for Thanksgiving.  The surprise on his face was incredible.


*  We had our first white Christmas! And it was the first Christmas we were able to spend together out of the three we’ve been together.  We made it extra special because we wont be able to spend Christmas together in 2014.

* Learned that Kansas can get really, really, bone chilling cold.

* Got to attend a Strong Bonds retreat through the Army.  All expenses paid, and we loved it.  It was good for our marriage and each other 🙂

* Took the kids to the Eisenhower museum (Very interesting!!!)

2013 also taught me that sometimes the people you think are your friends, really aren’t (Here in KS AND in WA state).  I left WA state a very bitter woman because I had been spurned by people who were supposed to be my friends, and couldn’t even bother to come say goodbye to us when we left or spend time with me before then, even though I had tried.  The day we left only a handful of people came to see us off.  One of those families was child #3’s best friend and her parents.  Donna, not sure if you’re reading this, but you’re the only one who made me cry.  We all miss you guys.

I had to learn to let go of some of my anger, as it was just eating away at me.  I learned that if someone wants to be your friend, they will make an effort.  Screw those who don’t.  I also don’t bother if I’ve been spurned by someone.  If you screw me over and LIE about it, you’re done in my book.  I also realized that some of the people I wanted so desperately to be friends with back in WA, they don’t matter and I won’t pursue it when we get back because it isn’t worth my time.

That being said, 2013 was not an easy year, but it was an exciting year full of changes. I’m glad it’s over though.  2014 has some difficulties in store for us…my husband is deploying. We will get through it though!  We have much to look forward to this year too…mom and sister possibly visiting in May, brother and his hopefully soon to be fiance visiting in June. Our oldest daughter’s best friend is coming for 2.5 weeks in July.  And the kids and I are going back home to BC to visit our family for Christmas this year.

One last thing.  I hate this laptop.  And I hate touch pads with every fiber of my being.  Do you know how many times I’ve had to fix my typing because of it?

Happy New Year!

To Sell or Not To Sell

Less than a month after Andrew proposed last year, I went and purchased my wedding dress.  I knew we were working on a tight schedule because our wedding was only 9 months away, so I wanted to get on the ball with it.  I took my daughters into David’s Bridal with me and found my dress one afternoon.

Oh its gorgeous, simply gorgeous.  It has a chapel train, champagne satin underlay and a champagne lace overlay.  I always wanted a lace dress, and I had been lusting after this one for quite a while.  I just fell in love with it.

I picked it up only a couple of weeks after it was ordered…that sure didn’t take long! And it’s still hanging in my closet.  I’ve only put it on once.  It’s never been altered, still has the tags attached and everything.  I don’t know what to do with it now.

Andrew and I had plans to get married this past July right before we moved to Kansas, but life obviously got in the way.  We landed up getting married just over two months after he proposed, but it was rushed.  He was leaving for KS late November, and we knew that it would be better for the kids and I, and himself, to have our military benefits, DEERS, paperwork (the works really) all squared away sooner rather than later.  So we made the jump and planned a small wedding at someone’s house we knew, all the while still planning on having this wedding in July because that was what we wanted. We did have a small wedding, just us and a handful of friends, my mom and my sister.  I bought a cute short grey lace dress at Macey’s, had a bouquet and my son walked me down the aisle.  We even had a little cake too, and spent our wedding night at a fabulous hotel in Seattle.  It was pretty magical.

I had made my alterations appointment for early March, but already by the end of December I was starting to freak out about this wedding stuff.  Imagine this…newly married, your husband left just a month after your wedding and moved halfway across the country, planning a wedding all by yourself, and raising four kids alone…and having to prep for moving halfway across the country in just 6 months….all by yourself.  I just couldn’t do it, and canceled the wedding.  I literally had no help whatsoever, and it was draining me. Thankfully we had not made deposits on anything yet.  I felt such a relief when I didn’t have the wedding planning hanging over my shoulders, but I still had this gorgeous dress hanging in my closet.

Now what do I do with it? We still want to do a vow renewal, probably in four or 5 years, but by then, I will like another dress and be too thin for the one I bought. Another factor in my thoughts of selling it, are that two people I know just got married….and wore that dress.  Ugh. My late husband’s cousin just wore it this past weekend, and my cousin’s cousin wore it as well just a couple of months ago.  That’s pretty discouraging.  It’s not unheard of, I know, but yuck.  I don’t want to share the dress, but I also love it so much.  Who knows what life will bring though, and maybe we wont be able to do a vow renewal, or will change our minds.  I have never worn a proper wedding dress, and that really fuels my desire to wear one when we do a vow renewal…but….I digress, I am just kind of lost with this one.

So I might sell it, or will I regret that? What did you ladies do with your wedding dresses?