To Sell or Not To Sell

Less than a month after Andrew proposed last year, I went and purchased my wedding dress.  I knew we were working on a tight schedule because our wedding was only 9 months away, so I wanted to get on the ball with it.  I took my daughters into David’s Bridal with me and found my dress one afternoon.

Oh its gorgeous, simply gorgeous.  It has a chapel train, champagne satin underlay and a champagne lace overlay.  I always wanted a lace dress, and I had been lusting after this one for quite a while.  I just fell in love with it.

I picked it up only a couple of weeks after it was ordered…that sure didn’t take long! And it’s still hanging in my closet.  I’ve only put it on once.  It’s never been altered, still has the tags attached and everything.  I don’t know what to do with it now.

Andrew and I had plans to get married this past July right before we moved to Kansas, but life obviously got in the way.  We landed up getting married just over two months after he proposed, but it was rushed.  He was leaving for KS late November, and we knew that it would be better for the kids and I, and himself, to have our military benefits, DEERS, paperwork (the works really) all squared away sooner rather than later.  So we made the jump and planned a small wedding at someone’s house we knew, all the while still planning on having this wedding in July because that was what we wanted. We did have a small wedding, just us and a handful of friends, my mom and my sister.  I bought a cute short grey lace dress at Macey’s, had a bouquet and my son walked me down the aisle.  We even had a little cake too, and spent our wedding night at a fabulous hotel in Seattle.  It was pretty magical.

I had made my alterations appointment for early March, but already by the end of December I was starting to freak out about this wedding stuff.  Imagine this…newly married, your husband left just a month after your wedding and moved halfway across the country, planning a wedding all by yourself, and raising four kids alone…and having to prep for moving halfway across the country in just 6 months….all by yourself.  I just couldn’t do it, and canceled the wedding.  I literally had no help whatsoever, and it was draining me. Thankfully we had not made deposits on anything yet.  I felt such a relief when I didn’t have the wedding planning hanging over my shoulders, but I still had this gorgeous dress hanging in my closet.

Now what do I do with it? We still want to do a vow renewal, probably in four or 5 years, but by then, I will like another dress and be too thin for the one I bought. Another factor in my thoughts of selling it, are that two people I know just got married….and wore that dress.  Ugh. My late husband’s cousin just wore it this past weekend, and my cousin’s cousin wore it as well just a couple of months ago.  That’s pretty discouraging.  It’s not unheard of, I know, but yuck.  I don’t want to share the dress, but I also love it so much.  Who knows what life will bring though, and maybe we wont be able to do a vow renewal, or will change our minds.  I have never worn a proper wedding dress, and that really fuels my desire to wear one when we do a vow renewal…but….I digress, I am just kind of lost with this one.

So I might sell it, or will I regret that? What did you ladies do with your wedding dresses?

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2 thoughts on “To Sell or Not To Sell

  1. Plan a night to wear it and hire a photographer for a few hours. Have the kids cook a great meal, wear the dress around the house and then head to a nearby park for picture of you and him – he can even rent a tux for the evening! It doesn’t have to be for a “big day”, it can be just to wear the dress you wanted to. I hope you get to enjoy it.

  2. Plan a night to wear it and hire a photographer for a few hours. Have the kids cook a great meal, wear the dress around the house and then head to a nearby park for picture of you and him – he can even rent a tux for the evening! It doesn’t have to be for a “big day”, it can be just to wear the dress you wanted to. I hope you get to enjoy it. – after that – sell it online to someone who can use for their big day 🙂

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